It’s okay to have limits. It’s okay to tell people what your limits are. This is a healthy and good thing, especially during difficult times. Women are not always good at saying no. We’ve been trained to be the ‘yes’ people. This often costs us more than we care to admit.
It’s okay to say ‘no.’
It’s okay to say, “Let me think about that, and I’ll get back to you.”
It’s okay to say, “Now isn’t a good time, but I’d love to talk to you ——(tomorrow; later today).”
If you want to be a healthier person, practice saying ‘no’ to anything and anyone who drains you. That could be a friend who only wants to talk about themselves, or watching the news, or scrolling on your facebook feed.
Healthy people aren’t available all the time like Netflix streaming. They are able to turn off the programming every now and again. They are able to have a glass of iced tea on their porch and watch the birds without answering texts and emails. They practice the art of being unavailable sometimes, so that they can be more available to themselves. This is healthy. This is a good thing.
Why is this a good thing? Because if you go against what you really want to do and constantly say yes to everything, you will eventually get burnt out, depressed, angry, or resentful. That’s not good for anyone that you care about.
Are you good at saying ‘no’? I am getting better at it, and consider myself a work-in-progress.